Had you restarted SpamFilter after making the change in the SpamFilter.ini file? I just checked your server, and TLSv1.0 is currently disabled. If we attempt a connection with TLS1.0 using the command you reported, you will see that there is no certificate exchange occurring, and that the s_client is unable to actually establish a connection and complete the SSL handshake - as you can see below in fact you never receive SpamFilter's welcome banner - the connection is terminated:
If you instead try issuing the same command without the -tls1 option, thus allowing the use of higher ciphers, you will see the certificates exchanged, the TLSv1.2 protocol being used, and the SSL handshake completes successfully as s_client will display SpamFilter's welcome banner (in green below):
openssl s_client -connect smtp.obx.de:465
CONNECTED(00000003)
depth=0 C = DE, ST = BY, L = Strasskirchen, O = OIS eK, OU = Div. Internet, CN = smtp.obx.de, emailAddress = webmaster@obx.de
verify error:num=18:self signed certificate
verify return:1
depth=0 C = DE, ST = BY, L = Strasskirchen, O = OIS eK, OU = Div. Internet, CN = smtp.obx.de, emailAddress = webmaster@obx.de
verify return:1
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Certificate chain
0 s:/C=DE/ST=BY/L=Strasskirchen/O=OIS eK/OU=Div. Internet/CN=smtp.obx.de/emailAddress=webmaster@obx.de
i:/C=DE/ST=BY/L=Strasskirchen/O=OIS eK/OU=Div. Internet/CN=smtp.obx.de/emailAddress=webmaster@obx.de
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Server certificate
-----BEGIN CERTIFICATE-----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-----END CERTIFICATE-----
subject=/C=DE/ST=BY/L=Strasskirchen/O=OIS eK/OU=Div. Internet/CN=smtp.obx.de/emailAddress=webmaster@obx.de
issuer=/C=DE/ST=BY/L=Strasskirchen/O=OIS eK/OU=Div. Internet/CN=smtp.obx.de/emailAddress=webmaster@obx.de
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No client certificate CA names sent
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SSL handshake has read 1334 bytes and written 640 bytes
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New, TLSv1/SSLv3, Cipher is AES256-GCM-SHA384
Server public key is 2048 bit
Secure Renegotiation IS supported
Compression: NONE
Expansion: NONE
SSL-Session:
Protocol : TLSv1.2
Cipher : AES256-GCM-SHA384
Session-ID: 97B56087C52E63BD1EAC6B09831F9C55417D6695A110091DDD94D1B318987D82
Session-ID-ctx:
Master-Key: 01D6B78695DE51BCA4D90FAC0A7FC89765671FDBFE82AF71152616B595A3428C3FFA8CA28BFFAA3E97866976F20AB0CD
Key-Arg : None
PSK identity: None
PSK identity hint: None
SRP username: None
TLS session ticket lifetime hint: 300 (seconds)
TLS session ticket:
0000 - a4 93 80 51 48 32 e5 ad-eb c9 6e d6 7d 4d 36 b0 ...QH2....n.}M6.
0010 - f5 0a 80 3d 1f 74 c9 46-dd c4 0e a4 21 d7 13 48 ...=.t.F....!..H
0020 - d2 68 62 32 fc 14 35 23-26 78 2d 56 0b c7 40 af .hb2..5#&x-V..@.
0030 - f9 27 ed 9d 71 c9 de 1b-40 d7 91 e4 a7 bb eb 3c .'..q...@......<
0040 - 9c 36 42 62 bc 22 50 ab-ec 81 66 f2 e2 19 3c 14 .6Bb."P...f...<.
0050 - 4f fd ea 8b fb 50 f0 fa-ca 15 bc 85 6a 38 5b 42 O....P......j8[B
0060 - c9 30 f4 7e 6b 25 e0 16-42 93 37 9e 73 30 88 ef .0.~k%..B.7.s0..
0070 - d9 8e 68 62 b4 02 50 ea-5f d2 1d bd fc 95 d1 4f ..hb..P._......O
0080 - 3e ab 68 ae da 98 d9 25-62 a9 4e 09 51 0f 11 9a >.h....%b.N.Q...
0090 - 78 65 d5 ac e6 58 c0 42-47 90 ce ea 93 4f 39 b6 xe...X.BG....O9.
Start Time: 1429561438
Timeout : 300 (sec)
Verify return code: 18 (self signed certificate)
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220 smtp.obx.de Welcome to OIS ESMTP Server - All your actions are logged. Abuses will be reported to your ISP. Be well. You have been warned!